Five Reasons to Stop Being Offended!

Stop being offended. Easy right? I didn’t think so. But, seriously, we do live in a world where people are basically good. However,  sometimes the ego takes over and causes them to behave in ways that are not-so-good. When someone says or does something hurtful, it’s easy to feel offended. In fact, we can find something offensive at least once a day.

But, is it worth it? Instead of allowing yourself to fall into that trap, consider these five reasons to smile and choose to STOP being offended.


1. Most of the things that offend us really aren’t about us.  A person’s outbursts or commentary is nothing more than their own inability to control their thought/mouth connection (or finger/post button connection). It is not a reflection on us it is a reflection on them and their own insecurities.

2. Anger and resentment create and attract more anger and resentment. Have you noticed that when something sets you off first thing in the morning it ruins your whole day? It’s because you set the stage for negativity and the universe is all too happy to oblige. If you dwell on an offense, you create an energy that remains focused on negativity. Let it go. Focus on positive energy to attract positive circumstances.

3. Time is too valuable to waste on negative emotions. Life really is short. Each moment that you spend dwelling on something you have no control over takes time away from dwelling on the good in your life. You can only focus on one emotion at a time, choose wisely.

4. Anger creates a victim mentality. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself. You start to make a mental list of all things you have to feel badly about. The mental list becomes the topic of your conversations with friends and is fed by their empathy.  If you do it often enough and suddenly everything that happens in your life causes you to feel more like a victim.

5. When it’s all said and done, the person that offended you has already forgotten about whatever it was. You are still obsessing, ruminating, and dwelling and they are out and about living their life as if nothing happened. They have let it go, so why can’t you?

There you have it; five very good reasons to let it roll off your back and carry on. Five reasons to smile instead of grimace. Next time you feel that blood start to boil, pick at least one of these reasons to stop, take a deep breath, smile, offer gratitude, and move on.

Cynthia Corsetti, CPCC, MS is a certified career coach, executive coach and leadership speaker whose focus is on improving employee engagement.